Getting Jobbed

I've toiled in hostile work environments (mostly civilian). So I feel for this poor guy.

I'm constantly being corrected, chastised, and punished for using the wrong words.

He's a young man who works at a non-profit in an office full of women. The Chastiser is his boss, a radical lesbian feminist; the words he uses are those dreaded tools of the patriarchy: girl, lady, etc.

However, I'd like to say this: the political/social demographics under which his boss falls are not the problem. Working in any female-dominated office is the problem--that means the vast majority of offices. In female-dominated offices, one person--the one who is "different"--is singled out for correction or to be driven into resigning. Often whisper campaigns are started to that end.

I'd rather be a Figueroa "street merchant" than work in such an office again.

IMO, this phenomenon is merely a distaff version of the gang-mentality. Whenever you read of someone going "postal," it's probably someone who was ganged up on at work in such an environment and didn't know how to handle it constructively.

I'd suggest that the young man in the "Dear Prudence" letter document the date, time and particulars of every incident and keep that documentation at home. Here's an even better suggestion: start your own business, kid.

(Thanks to one of Amy Alkon's guests who commented on a funny post; a post which lets me know what I have to do to get my next Instalanche!)

Comments

[IronMike]

hey J,
This is exactly why S responded thus when I first asked her, "Do you think I should become an officer?"

"NO!"

She was so disgusted by an office she worked in at Bergstrom AFB (yes, that AFB): three female Os and her. She would work on a report for days (this is '89-'90 remember, so no ppt) and then the Lt would deliver it to the leadership and get kudos. Sonja would get push-back when she would ask for her 2 hours daily for language study. Two hours that she wasn't just authorized, but that was directed by ESC. The "ladies" told her she had to do that study on her own time.

No surprise she PCS'd from that job as soon as she could.

(And yes, she finally answered 'yes' to my question after my best WAPS test resulted in me still missing TSgt by 46 pts.)